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"The person with the most control of their inner world has the most power." - Jim Murphy In this summary, you'll learn the path to "Inner Excellence" and high performance. You'll receive the Inner Excellence actionable ideas video and 'Really Useful Idea' worksheet next week. Cheers, Nathan Inner Excellence Core MessageJim Murphy had one question on his mind when he started this book: “How can an Olympic athlete train for four years for an event that lasts less than a minute, and still have peace and confidence in that moment?” The answer was much more than the key to a great performance. It became the key to a great life. The Olympians who are serene in the seconds that change the course of their lives are chasing something bigger than a podium finish. They're chasing self-mastery and peak performance. Murphy merges these two pursuits into one mission he calls “Inner Excellence.” If inner excellence is achieved, life becomes richer, deeper, and more rewarding, and high podium finishes are simply a byproduct. Top Olympians and high performers use training and competition to inch closer to inner excellence, so that by the time their big event comes, they know that regardless of the outcome, they'll walk away with the skills to live life to the fullest. That's because the pursuit of inner excellence leads to more self-belief, focus, and freedom.
Freedom is key, because when you're obsessed with a specific result, like hitting a salary number, closing a deal, or winning gold in your sport, you set yourself up for disappointment. Getting the result you wanted is like getting a lollipop. Sweet for a moment, gone just as fast. Achieving inner excellence is like taking ownership of an entire candy shop. Each day is full of sweet surprises and last until the day you die. Let's trade the lollipop for the candy shop and seek inner excellence with a daily rise in self-belief, focus, and freedom. Inner Excellence Quest #1: Develop Incredible Self-BeliefIn 1992, Pepperdine baseball coach Andy Lopez had a problem: none of his players could imagine themselves competing at the College World Series, let alone winning it. So he started playing footage of last year's College World Series on a continuous loop in the locker room. His players watched the highlights before and after every practice and every game, and started to see themselves doing something similar. Five months later, Pepperdine were College World Series champions. You will never outperform your beliefs. You can have talent and perfect preparation, but self-destruct the moment a situation exceeds your self-belief. Beliefs are the ceiling on your performance. Raise your ceiling by continually seeing yourself do far more than what you're capable of right now, like the Pepperdine players did. Every morning, close your eyes and spend 30 seconds picturing yourself performing a skill you want to master, like public speaking, creating content, or performing in your sport. See yourself performing the skill as you usually do. Then, gradually ramp up your performance until you're operating beyond your comfort zone and on a higher level. When the time comes to perform that skill during the day, model someone who clearly has high belief in themselves. If you're working on your 3-point shot, imagine you're Steph Curry. What would he believe about himself every time he took a 3-point shot? What would he say to himself after missing two shots in a row? As you raise your self-belief, reality will push back and your performance won't match your self-belief. You'll miss several shots in a row. You'll lose a big deal. Or choke when it matters most. This is where most people get it wrong. They either pretend the failures aren't happening, or they get personal — and think, "I'm terrible under pressure" or "I'm just not a good shooter.” — and let the setback rewrite who they are. Do neither. Instead, just tell the truth, but keep it in the past tense and add one small way you're getting better or could get better. Think, "I missed a few shots yesterday, but my form is improving." Or "I blanked during my presentation, but next time I could pause and take a breath instead of rushing." Acknowledge the gap, but keep hope alive. Inner Excellence Quest #2: Achieve Absolute FocusStewart Cink showed up to the 2009 British Open with terrible form and zero expectations. He'd missed the cut in his previous tournament and hadn't broken par all week. In the first round of the British Open, he swung and missed the ball completely. But the error had little effect on him. He was just grateful to be playing a sport he loved, at a venue he loved. That gratitude had a profound effect on his game. He was able to lock into every shot and be completely present, not caring what had happened or what might happen. Three days later, he found himself in a playoff with legendary golfer Tom Watson. Instead of being paralyzed by the moment and feeling pressure to win, he was grateful to watch Watson up close and play alongside him. Cink went on to win the British Open that afternoon. Gratitude sounds soft, but it isn't. Gratitude brings an axe to past demons and future anxieties. All that remains is the present moment. Before your next big moment, feel intense gratitude for being where you are and being able to do what you do. Let gratitude wash over you as you slip into the present moment. Now stay in the present moment by eliminating any trace of hurry. Hurry is a signal that something has a grip on your mind, pulling you forward and stressing you out. Picture the person in the elevator frantically hitting the close-door button to save two seconds. Do they feel present? Or is their mind already somewhere else? Remove hurry by imagining everything you're doing in slow motion. Every action becomes more deliberate, your attention merges with your movements, and you're fully immersed in the present. Inner Excellence Quest #3: Feel Total FreedomThe biggest obstacle to inner peace and peak performance is a preoccupation with what people think of you or whether you'll get what you want. In other words, it's self-centeredness. Murphy goes to great lengths explaining that self-centeredness is the root of all fear and the cause of so much choking in high-pressure situations. The antidote to performance fear and self-centeredness is a simple question: "Who benefits from me performing well?" Someone other than you will benefit from your ability to demonstrate excellence. A teammate, friend, child, or stranger will be inspired and excited to raise their own level of excellence. Therefore, before and during your next performance, make it your mission to display excellence so that the people around you choose to seek excellence and enjoy the fullness of life through peak performance. Your attachment to a results fades as you're no longer playing for yourself. You’re playing for the love of the game and for the chance to inspire others. TakeawayJim Murphy says, “Inner Excellence is an entire lifestyle and training system designed to help you perform extraordinarily—whether you’re a professional athlete or everyday citizen—and be your true self, so you can live with absolute fullness of life.” Pursue Inner Excellence with a daily increase in belief, focus, and freedom from results and opinions, and watch your performance and enjoyment of life elevate to a new level. Key Quotes"When you realize that the reason you want to be world champion, become CEO, or have that beautiful home on the water is because you think they will bring you freedom, peace, and joy — shouldn't you go for those things directly?"
"The person with the most control of their inner world has the most power."
"In the desert, I had an astonishing insight. I realized that the pursuit of extraordinary performance and the pursuit of the best possible life are the same path."
"Self-centeredness is the root cause of fear."
"Without a clear path and purpose, self will be at the center of your life, which means you need to continually gather more for self, because self is your primary concern and you can never have enough to be truly secure."
"If you're shooting a free throw under pressure, the task is difficult not just because of the consequences of missing, but also because of the thought that you would be the one who missed it."
"To be fearless is to be selfless, so there's nothing fear (or anyone) can steal from you."
"The more comfort in your life, the harder it is to face discomfort. This doesn't mean comfort is bad, it just means the more time you spend on the couch, the harder it is to get off it."
"Failure is a feeling long before it's an actual result." – Michelle Obama
“The problem is not the problem, the problem is the way you're thinking about it.”
"The proper emotional response to a problem is 75 percent of the solution." – Jim Loehr
"If you cling to your life, you'll lose it; but if you give up your life for others, you'll find it."
"I never prayed to make a putt. I always prayed I'd react well if I missed." - Chi Chi Rodriguez
"You can perform poorly and win, just as you can perform well and lose."
“Expect nothing, prepare for anything.” – Samurai Mantra
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